Dating Tips For Guys
1) What types of presents should be given at the
beginning of a relationship that the man hopes to be a
serious, lasting love? (and what not to give!)
Generally speaking, a man should not give ANY gifts
for the first few two or three dates. Most guys tend
toward “buy her affections” behavior, where they try
to lock women into an implied commitment by buying gifts
for her far too soon. What this really does is
scare women off.
Instead, a guy should save his money to demonstrate that
he’s FUN, and then show her a good time. An example
might be to get a few rolls of quarters and take her
to the arcade. Or buy her a really nice pastry that
you can share together.
Gifts early on should be geared toward enhancing the
experience of your time together, not to impress a woman.
Hold off on the flowers and the candy until you’ve
built up some genuine rapport and interest from her,
then your gifts will be appreciated.
After three dates or so, the guy can then open up a
little and maybe get her a card or some flowers. But
the idea here, again, is to keep it LOW KEY. It’s
better to under-gift at this point so that he can show
thoughtful caution rather than hasty imprudence.
Remember: It’s not the money you spend, but the message you
send.
2) What types of presents he should give to show its
just a short-term, sexy affair, a fling that will go
no further? (and what not to give!)
For a sexy affair, give sexy gifts! Small things like
a coupon to fulfill her fantasy, or take her to a
lingerie store to buy a really hot nightie. How about
a couple of tickets to a steamy movie?
Do NOT give expensive gifts as they imply a level of
commitment that neither party may be willing to make.
No jewelry or big-ticket items. Keep it tasteful, not
trashy.
3) What types of presents to give to a girl as a sign
that now the man is starting to think more seriously
about the relationship, and wants to show that he
hopes it will last. (and what not to give!)
When it comes time for an anniversary or some kind of
major event, such as Valentine’s Day, or a birthday,
you’re pretty much obligated to step up and produce
something memorable. I once gave a girl a naked Barbie
doll with a coupon in the box that said I’d buy her
(and Barbie) some clothes, as long as I got to help
pick them out. That went over BIG with her.
Another possibility for a good “relationship” gift is
something that links you two together. No, not
handcuffs, or matching T-shirts. I’m talking about
something that will keep reminding her of you when
you’re not around, such as a nice pair of wine glasses
from your trip to visit some vineyards, or make her a
CD with a bunch of your favorite songs. Get her a gift that
does double-duty.
4) What signs should a man look out for to know what
present to give? How to interpret her signals.
A man should show some insight and intelligence in his
choice for a gift. He should look at the woman’s
interests and get her something that stands out. If
she’s into adventure sports, get her a day pass at a
rock climbing gym. If she likes music, get her a
ticket to a concert. Take a few minutes to think it
through and you’ll come up with dozens of good ideas.
The idea here is to be IRREGULAR with the timing, and
understand the need for some variation in the way you
gift. It’s less about the “what” than it is about the “when”
and “how.” Small gifts every so often are much more
effective than the large ones. Save the large gifts
for the big events.
He should also watch out for signals that indicate the
woman is a little TOO into getting gifts. If she drops
any overt hints about wanting material
gratification, he should run to the nearest exit.
5) Is there a time when you really shouldn’t give a
gift?
Don’t give gifts solely to smooth over an error on
your part, such as insulting her and expecting to get
in her good graces again just by sending her candy.
You have to show her some genuine remorse with the
gift so that it doesn’t come across as just an
empty gesture.
Be wary of being the only one in the relationship
buying gifts. She should buy things for you
occasionally, too – IF she’s really into you. Demonstrate
that you can provide, but let her demonstrate she can
nurture you back.
Another time you shouldn’t buy her a gift is to prompt
her for sexual favors in return. It sets up a bad
precedent for you, and it cheapens her.
The best rule for gifts is that they should always be
given with NO expectation of return. Give just for the
pleasure of giving and you’ll rarely go wrong.
Remember that when you’ve got your self-confidence
established, you don’t have to worry as much about
when and how to give gifts, because there won’t be any
subtext of neediness on your part.
That just means that when you have the right Alpha
Male vibe to you, a woman is not going to misinterpret
the meaning of your gift. She’ll understand that it’s
something she should cherish and not take for granted.
On the other hand, if you’re giving to GET, you’re going
to have problems. Women will not want to be with you
because you’re setting up an agenda, and that’s
the most unattractive thing a woman can sense from you.
If you’d like to find out more about becoming an Alpha
Man, I urge you to take a look at the Secrets of the Alpha Man
Program.
You’ll learn how to attract women the right way, with your
confidence and posture, not with your insecurities.
