Dating Tips For Guys: Why Men Fear The “Player”
Embrace Your Inner Player
Why Men Fear The “Player…”
Guys everywhere live in constant frustration. Some of it is
se(xual. A lot of it is psychological.
First off, we’ve been made to believe that sleeping. with a woman
is a privilege. It’s a gift from them to us, and we need to work
hard to be worthy of it. Otherwise it’s hand lotion and Internet
n@sty sites for you.
I personally find this state of mind to be incomprehensible.
That’s a big word for unbelievable.
It’s unbelievable that so many men honestly believe that they need
to push, beg, and trick women into giving them WHAT WOMEN WANT
already.
But the biggest source of frustration for the guy who wants to
learn the path of the player is … not wanting to BE a “player.”
This comes from many places, really.
It has its roots with women who talk down the “Player” as a
heartbreaker. A jerk. A man-about-town with no scruples.
Then there’s the stereotype of the player, like Quagmire on “The
Family Guy.”
Giggidy, giggidy, gig-gi-dy!
He’s a one-dimensional stereotype. He’s the guy in all the movies
that needs to be taught a lesson by a willful woman who eventually
“tames him” and he declares his undying love.
Just watch any of those dumb-ass movies out there today and you’ll
see what I mean.
The “Player” doesn’t exist.
At least, not in the way you’re probably imagining him.
This is a female fantasy, along with the same trashy plotlines of
half the romance novels and cheeseball movies out there.
Girl meets guy.
Guy is a wild bad boy. The Player.
Girl has torrid romance with guy.
Girl breaks up with guy.
Guy discovers the error of his “player” ways and wants girl back.
Girl tames guy.
Carlos throws up.
Look, guys that sleep around with a lot of women and recklessly
hurt them are FEW and far in between. (And this is something I do
NOT condone.)
In fact, this cardboard stereotype of the “player” is just an urban
myth, right along with the alligators living in your sewers and the
kidney farmers. (If you don’t know about these, don’t ask…)
Remember in “The Matrix” when Neo was jolted out of his own reality
by the kid who bends the spoons in front of him? What does he tell
him? “There is no spoon.”
You have a new belief: “There is no Player.”
The sad truth of the matter is that:
1) Women LOVE the company of men who can actually give them
pleasure from se. xual tension (which is not the same guy that is
the “Nice Guy,” bending over backwards to provide for them.)
2) Women can sniff out the player in a minute, and if they really
WANTED to avoid him, they would.
Nobody held a gun to her head to make her sleep with him. She
desired it more than he did, in most cases.
So back to the frustration and fear that guys have for the player…
Most of your frustration is in feeling powerless.
Powerless, meaning “lacking power.”
Or sometimes described as “Got no power.”
I remember a Seinfeld episode where George is complaining: “Why do
women always have the upper hand?? I never have the upper hand! I
need Hand, Jerry! I have NO Hand!”
Which leads to most guys having ONLY hand, if you know what I mean.
(Oh, Carlos, you so fuuuunny…!)
Men who don’t understand the game of male-female interactions often
fall into a pit of self-doubt that leaves them on the frustrated
end of things. So frustrated, in fact, that his decision making
ability is radically impaired.
He starts to think that if he pays for drinks and dinners that
she’ll find him “romantic.”
He starts to believe that if he compliments her or tries to impress
her, that she’ll be attracted and ‘decide’ he’s a logically good
choice for a boyfriend.
He starts to think that if he becomes the opposite of the “player,”
that will make her want him.
Tell me something… What is romantic about a guy who does nothing
but kiss your a$$ all the time?
ANSWER: Nothing.
And that’s what you’re doing when you pander to a beautiful woman.
You’re giving her everything she DOESN’T want.
Are you starting to see where I’m going with this?
Women WANT players.
They want a man that excites and turns them on. That knows how to
talk to them in challenging and exciting ways.
When I say “want,” and this is the most confusing portion of the
game, is that most women say they want one thing, and really want
another. And this confuses a lot of guys.
Let me help you with this dilemma: Never give a woman what she SAYS
she wants. Only give her what gets you the RESULTS you both need.
In any social situation there are those who win because they have a
strong enough belief in themselves, and those that lose because
they bought into the beliefs and frame of another.
When you give a woman what she wants, she realizes that you’re
buying into her viewpoint and reality.
When you give a woman the gift of participating in YOUR strong
reality, you will get results.
So when a woman asks you if you’re a player, she’s not asking that
at all. She’s asking you a question that is designed to smoke out
the chumps who are acting all Alpha, but really have no game at
all. And she smells it by your answer.
“Are you a player?” – “No, why do you say that?”
BZZZZZZZZT!!!! Wrong answer.
“Are you a player?” – “Yeah, I’m a bad mutha… let’s go to my
place …”
BZZZZZZZZT!!!! Wrong answer.
(Some of you might think that after what I’ve just said that she
wants a player means that you should tell her you ARE a player.
WRONG again.)
It’s not really that confusing to figure out what the real answer
should be.
Think of it this way: What is the most frustrating thing a woman
does to you when you ask HER a question?
ANSWER: When she ignores you or refuses to give you a straight
answer.
Read that again, and remember back to a time when this happened to
you. You might have asked her something about her job, or some
other dull and un-involving question. Do you remember that hollow
sensation when you feel like you’re being pushed aside and lowered
in social status?
That you can be IGNORED?
There is nothing more powerful than a carefully placed “void of
attention” – or knowing when and how to IGNORE with Alpha Power.
Not to taunt her or piss her off.
When she asks you if you’re a player, you ignore her and keep on
playing.
I’m running out of space here, so let me help you continue this
path of learning…
I’ve created a handbook to help you understand the frame (belief
system) of the Modern Alpha Man. It’s important, because most of
the tips and tricks you’ll learn out there won’t work unless you
understand the context and the beliefs of the man that uses them.
You ever see an actor in a bad movie and think, Man, this dude SUCKS!
But can you imagine what an actor like Denzel Washington, or a
Robert DeNiro would do with those exact same words?
These guys could weave Egyptian cotton out of horseshit – all with
the power of their frame and skill with creating their own reality.
That’s what a great actor does on the screen. He just embodies the
belief system of that character so completely, you totally believe
it.
Anyone that does anything REALLY well is just coming from a
powerful belief system.
If you’d like to learn the powerful belief system of a ladies man,
the beliefs that make a man successful and at tractive to women,
I’ve got a program that will help you. And there’s no acting
required.
I’ll help bring the REAL you out that gets women.
You can read more about it here:
http://www.confidence.com
Stop being a nice guy, and start getting L A I D.
Welcome to a new year and a new way of thinking…
– Carlos X
PS: Getting successful with the ladies is a path that you need to start
now. If you wait, it will only get harder for you as your
frustrated male friends and well-meaning lady friends all try to
confuse you more and more about creating real at traction with women.
If you’ve ever heard that lame advice to just “be yourself” or “the
right one will come along someday,” you’ve been suckered – BIG TIME.
Don’t wait for opportunity.
MAKE IT.
