Fear of Approach
If there’s one thing I’ve observed about guys it’s that they are totally intimidated by the prospect of approaching. Some guys will not do it at all, and some will do it and let it make them sick to their stomach.
There’s no reason you can’t feel totally competent approaching women.
First of all, there’s one myth I want to shatter for you right now. It’s the myth that the fear of approaching people is evolutionary.
Horseshit.
If that were so, why would extroverted (outgoing) people make so many more connections in the world, thus making them more socially successful? And also more likely to meet more women and pass their genes on to the next generation?
This whole “stranger danger” myth is killing your game with women.
The fear of approaching comes from your fear of being SAFE.
That’s right.
Let me say this again:
You are afraid
1) ACT NOW
If you give yourself time to wait, to watch for some perfect conditions in order to approach her, you won’t approach. It’s in this space of time when you first spot a woman that you give yourself the most opportunity to back out.
DO NOT WAIT!
You don’t have the time to
2) DEVELOP CONVERSATIONAL SHARPNESS
3) GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD – RELAX YOUR MIND AND BODY!
4) BE AUTHENTIC
A lot of guys like techniques. Hey, I do too! They help us through the rough patches of conversation when we don’t know what the hell to say.
Like when she asks you, “are you a player?”
Or she asks you, “Why are you asking?” to your favorite opener.
You get that lurch in your chest, like the feeling you get when you miss a step on some stairs.
5) Raise the energy
6) Make this your LIFESTYLE.
Most of you guys are probably aware that a lot of what I’ve been talking about are some of the advanced concepts from my R.E.A.L. Game.
“REAL” stands for:
- R = Relaxed & Resourceful
- E = Effective & Energized
- A = Authentic & Alpha
- L = Lifestyle & Lasting
