HOW TO ASK A GIRL FOR A DATE
This has to be one of the questions I hear most frequently from guys {!name_fix}.
Why?
It’s the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman, and one
that I get asked about regularly. It feels like such a risky
proposition, putting yourself out there for a woman’s approval (or
rejection.)
The answer to the riddle is this:
STOP asking women out!
First of all, you’re starting a program in a woman’s head that
says: “He’s romantically interested in me. That means dates, and
awkward kisses, and possibly sex, and then a breakup like the last
one. I better not.”
Second, by asking her out, you make a woman need to figure out if
she’s attracted to you the moment you ask the question. She is
presented with an opportunity which requires her to figure out her
interest level in YOU.
You see, a woman doesn’t want to lead a man on, but she also rarely
knows right away if there’s romantic interest. So she’ll say yes
just to test you out. It’s like her first drive of a new car. She
doesn’t want to be obligated to buy right off the bat. If you push
her for an answer right away (which is how asking her out comes
across to her) she’ll say No, even if she isn’t sure yet.
Most women are NOT attracted to you immediately unless it’s by your
looks alone. If you rely on pure sex appeal to win you the one you
want, you’ll be relying on “luck.” There’s a much better way.
Don’t move so fast on her. Be patient.
(Oh, and another fringe benefit of not asking a woman out is that
you can’t be rejected. Pretty cool, huh?)
Take a moment and think about which of these would be most
interesting to a woman:
A) A meal and/or movie date that demonstrates no originality, and
implies that she’ll have to be considering you romantically, and
that there will be pressure for her to be “on,” and then after it’s
all done, she’ll have to deal with your attempt to kiss her. Scary.
B) A chance to go out and have some fun, with no pressure.
Which one sounds better to you?
Now, if you’re still leaning towards Option A, think about which
one sounds better to HER?
Does Option B sound better now? You better believe it does.
Now, it may not seem to have your interests in mind right away, but
that’s not what winning a girl’s heart is about. It’s about
forgetting what YOU want for long enough so that you can give her
what SHE wants.
Let’s put it this way – would you invest $10,000 of your
hard-earned money in a stock you’d never even heard of before? No
way! You’d want to see what the company is about, check out the
fundamentals. And THEN you might be willing to invest a few hundred
or so.
That’s what it looks like to her – potentially BIG risk, and no
guarantee of return.
There’s a saying: “You can have anything you want in this world if
you just help enough other people get what they want.”
Also, Option B gives her a little MYSTERY about your intentions and
your interest, and that is what a woman wants. Remember: hope +
doubt = passion.
So now that you’ve figured out that you need to give her a lower
investment option to start out with, how do you do it exactly?
Easy. If you’ve only just met her on the street, you should see if
she’s got a minute for coffee or tea at the local coffee shop. Take
the opportunity to build a little rapport and show her that you’re
FUN. The rest will come later if you can demonstrate a laid-back,
fun personality.
If she doesn’t have the time, you then shift into a lower gear and
get her phone number and/or email address. After you put such a
nice request out there for coffee and she turned you down, she’s
more likely to agree to give you her contact information, and in
most cases she will write it right down.
If she hesitates, which is very likely because you’re still
essentially a stranger, then you need to reassure her by teasing
her. That’s right, teasing her.
HER: “Sorry, I don’t give out my number.”
YOU: “It’s okay, I’m only going to leave you a hundred messages on
your machine. C’mon, write it down.” Make her feel a little silly
that she doubts your integrity and character. Teasing makes her
forget about her weird trust issues.
Hand her a pen and paper and don’t look her in the eye; just wait.
The next person who speaks, loses.
Usually, she’ll write it down. You have to be willing to wait out
that long, uncomfortable silence while she figures out if you’re a
confident guy or a wimp. If you start talking and trying to
reassure her of all the reasons she should feel okay about giving
you her information, you’ve already lost.
Just act as if she could do nothing else, and she will do exactly
what you want.
Once you have her contact information, you only need to get hold of
her and invite her to complete the offer you originally made – tea
or coffee at a certain local shop. It’s a low-investment, and it’s
not too pushy or overtly “romantic” that she has to worry about
where things have to go.
At this point, you’d need to start applying the advanced strategies
from The Dating Black Book to keep her interest and get her into
you. You’d use the Tease-to-Please tactic, along with the
conversational techniques I detail in the e-book. You could then
apply some of the Kino and other advanced tactics to melt
her into your arms. Your coffee date could turn into anything you want,
if you’re willing to learn a few new attitudes and skills.
If you want the COMPLETE game-plan, you have to get THE rule book –
my e-book. That’s where I’ve put hundreds of strategies and
pointers to this game of seduction so that you can win at this game.
It’s the difference between having a few pieces of the puzzle, and
having the whole thing put together for you to give you the BIG
picture.
To put it rather crudely, it’s the difference between hesitation and mast urbation.
I remember when situations like this used to baffle me. I thought
for sure it was me doing something wrong (because I was doing a LOT
of things wrong back then, but didn’t understand which were good or bad.)
After taking years and YEARS of this abuse, I decided that I had to
figure it out, once and for all.
No more fluffy nonsense books about what you should do but don’t tell
you HOW to do it. The Dating Black Book has real tactics and strategies,
as well as the underlying beliefs of the men who GET WOMEN.
Isn’t that what you want?
I’ve used these strategies and principles for years to get massive success
with women.
And now you can, too.
I’m in this to help you guys out … to get the kind of success you
want and DESERVE to have with women {!name_fix}.
You don’t have to sit at home without a woman in your life.
You don’t have to sleep alone every night.
And you don’t have to fear women anymore.
You can get success – REAL success – with The Dating Black Book.
Download it TODAY at http://www.datingdynamics.com
– Carlos
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