Mental Barriers

I’ve worked with a lot of guys over the years. A LOT.

And one thing I’ve discovered is that guys already have most of the skills that they need. I’m not talking about technical skills, but they have the FOUNDATIONAL ability to attract women RIGHT NOW.

You might ask yourself, Hey, if that’s true, why aren’t more guys getting real success with women?

Let’s look at what I call the “restraints”. These are the things that hold guys back:

RESTRAINT 1) He won’t admit he’s not getting REAL success with women.

This one is common. It’s due to the guy thinking he already knows it all with women. Hey, guys have egos. It’s part of who we are.

Ego is necessary for a guy to do the things he has to do. To be strong and independent, as most guys are raised to be, we have to have a good, healthy ego.

But when that ego gets in the way of improving the most important area of your life, it’s time to put it aside. It no longer serves you. It is said that the mark of the mature and strong man is his ability to know when he doesn’t know it all.

Another part of this restraint is when I see guys who pass up the opportunity to find the secrets to success because they’re not willing to invest in their own lives. They’ve decided that

RESTRAINT 2) He doesn’t know where to go to get REAL information about attraction and women.

Let’s face it – there’s a TON of crap out there on this topic. A lot of guys will tell you what they think is the “secret” to getting women, but almost NONE of them really know it.

I’ll tell it to you right here. And this isn’t some dumb half-truth. It’s what I discovered after long YEARS of painful work.

The “Secret” to attracting women is to be pursuing your own passions – and then communicating this on the outside with skill.

When you’re on your way somewhere in life, women will want to come along for the ride.

I’ll show you my secret test for understanding the KILLER secret of inner game in just a minute.

The place to go to get the REAL truth about women is to the guy who will admit to you that it isn’t really about the women. (This is something you’ve probably suspected for a while.)

And it’s not the women you should be chasing, as you’ll soon see.

RESTRAINT 3) He doesn’t know how to stay motivated when it comes to going out and meeting women, or practicing his “game.”

Someone once asked me, “Hey, I read your Dating Black Book, and now I’m SO motivated to go out there and meet women. Will I be able to stay this motivated from now on?”

Yes … and No.

Yes, you’ll be able to get motivated when you understand how attraction works. I detail how women work completely in my e-book, and you’ll feel like you’ve been woken from a dream when you understand the Truth about women.

But you’ll soon lose that motivation if you don’t get out there and USE the information. ACTION is what breeds success and constant motivation.

You see, motivation is like taking a shower. You took one this morning (hopefully), and now you’re clean… for a while. But you’ll have to take another one tomorrow. And most every day if you want to stay clean.

The same thing is true of motivation. To keep it going, you’ll have to keep reviewing your plan (something I outline in my e-book and CD programs) and get regular doses of motivation.

RESTRAINT 4) Himself.

Huh?

Yeah, I know that sounds weird, but the revelation that came to me recently when I was conducting one of my boot camps was this:

Most men are holding themselves back from getting the success they desire with women.

How are they doing this?

It’s very simple, and it’s the biggest factor in whether or not a woman will trust you in those critical first few minutes of meeting you.

Ready for it?

It’s this:

Men are holding themselves back by not allowing their personality to come out.

You’ve seen this in your friends to some degree. He’s the guy who doesn’t say much, and might even appear a bit dull on the surface. But underneath, you know he’s got a fountain of power and fun, if he only knew how to bring it out.

The guys that need the most work in my boot camps and seminars are the men that are holding their true feelings, their true inner power, and their true identity hidden behind a mask of social paralysis.

Social paralysis is what happens to you when you were conditioned to withhold your feelings and personality. Usually this happened to you when you were a kid.

Now, you know I hate that annoying psycho-babble about getting in touch with your inner child, or hashing out all your issues in therapy for the rest of your life.

The only way to beat these things out of your system is through ACTION. You don’t need a hanky and a good cry. You just need the skills to feel more confident and secure letting your inner Alpha MAN out.

Remember my saying: You weren’t put here to FIND yourself, you were put here to CREATE yourself.

So here’s my test. It’s one that I think you’ll get a lot out of.

I want you to close your eyes for a minute. I want you to just think for a minute about who you would be if you could be ANYONE in the world.

Just close your eyes right now and do this.

It’s really important that you take a second and resist the urge to keep reading until you’ve visualized who you would be if you could be anyone in the world.

Got it?

Don’t read on until you’ve taken a second to figure it out.

When you’re ready, read on…

Okay, if you’ve done what I asked (ahem), then I want you to think about this:
If you imagined anyone else but YOURSELF in that exercise, your inner game needs some work.

This was the secret that took me YEARS to discover, and when I did, I grabbed it and ran with it, and it has made ALL the difference in my success with women.

When I made a firm commitment to being the best I could be, and understanding that envying and wanting to be someone else only made me unhappy and kept me from achieving my goals, THAT is when my life changed.

When I decided that the only person in the world I wanted to be was ME, and that I wouldn’t trade lives with anyone, that’s when I really became an Alpha Man. And that’s when the women appeared. I didn’t need a bunch of clever lines because the attitude of wanting to be in my life was all that I needed to be attractive. When I was TRYING to get her attracted, she knew that my life didn’t have the right focus.

Remember, success isn’t a pie with only a few slices. It’s an infinite feast where the more food you have, the more appears on the table. (That’s my best analogy, probably because I’m hungry as I’m writing this…

And now I want to pass this on, because it has changed my life from one where I thought I’d be lucky to get laid, to one where I’m seeing 3 different women at one time. And I’m achieving success like never before in my personal and spiritual life.

I have options and happiness – two things just about every man wants.