Nervous Energy With Women?

hey carlos!

I’m a huge fan of your stuff – especially ultimate inner game has helped me tremendously.

I just have a quick question:
I always hear that being grounded/slow with measured speech is very masculine and looking at different role models, it certainly is.

however, there is also a side of my personality that is very hyper, fidgety and silly – not to impress others, more like for self amusing.
I feel like that very “centered man” part of me is very aware and peaceful, however it lacks some laughing and fun at times (and james bond and clint eastwood never really seem to laugh and joke around a lot…)

should I suppress that high-energy part of me (or ground it via meditation) if I want to be a “real alpha”?

or could I even reconcile those two?

thanks a lot for your help,
your friend from germany

– Leo
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CARLOS ANSWERS:

You should “ground” that energy so that it doesn’t get away from you. Enthusiasm is great, and necessary. But you don’t want to come across as a “spaz.”

Meditation can take off some of that edge.

Even if you don’t feel nervous, looking like you are is going to work against you.

Just make sure you don’t “over correct” and lose that fire and passion…