Q & A with Carlos: Is She Really That Special?
Carlos Xuma’s Dating Advice for Men
QUESTION: Is she really THAT special…?
Carlos,
First off, Happy New Year!
I had a great party at my house last night that my parents let me throw and it was a blast. Since restarting the Alpha Man Program, I feel so much better. My good friend’s cousin was here last night and she was really hot.
We hit it off well, but what really turned me on to her was her personality. This may be the first time I actually mean it when I say it too. She was so noble and modest, almost a different breed. Way more mature than any girl her age (20). I told her out of instinct I thought her passions were sexy and went in for the kiss. She told me I was cute and bold (thanks to the AMP).
Anyway, we scheduled a day two this week, but a couple things.
1. I admit to a slight jealousy when she was flirting with another friend, but did my best to do my own thing when it happened. How can I get back on a woman’s radar when this happens?
2. I leave for school in two weeks and most likely won’t see her again. But, where can I meet more women like her? The girls at bars I meet are so immature. This one doesn’t like getting “Fucked up” or smoke weed or any of that stuff.
Thanks,
P
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CARLOS ANSWERS:
Yes, you’ll meet a lot of women out there. But the biggest mistake you can make is to get fixated on any one woman as being too special or “different.” And especially if she really IS special or different!
It’s important to not get too carried away with the feeling that a woman is TOO special. The reason is that you’ll start to lose focus and make some pretty dumb mistakes.
First of all, there’s a saying: “You are unique and special… just like everyone else.”
And this goes for her, too !
The Big Mistake happens when a guy makes the decision that one woman is somehow “different” and needs to be treated differently.
In the end, what happens? He simply overcompensates by fixating on her, obsessing, and then ruining it.
Almost EVERY time.
The girl I’m currently seeing is special to me, and the way I got her was to give her just as much space and time as I did with all the other women in my life. I treated her NO DIFFERENTLY than any of the other women.
And now that we’re into each other, I can NOW treat her more special than the other women that weren’t lucky enough to get me. You gotta be patient and relaxed at the start.
So in answer to your questions:
1) Slight jealousy happens when you don’t have options. Scaring off a woman happens when you “TRY” to get back on her radar.
Instead, do your Alpha Man role well. Show her the things I teach you in the Secrets of the Alpha Man program. When you’ve done that well, you get her number, stand out in her mind, and re-connect later.
IF you haven’t already found that the other women in your life haven’t monopolized your time. Hey, if you spread the Alpha Love, it will happen to you. I have options options options.
And so should you.
2) More women like her are probably NOT going to be at the bars. But you know what? You don’t go to the bars to meet the special ones, though they MIGHT be there.
You go there to get the practical experience that allows you to feel comfortable approaching ANY woman, so that when the special one comes along, you won’t mess it up.
And if you want to make sure you don’t mess it up, review your Secrets of the Alpha Man strategies daily.
It’s the path to strong inner AND outer game.
