Q & A with Carlos: Approaching Women

QUESTION: Approaching Women … DAD??!

Hey Carlos,

Thanks again mate for your advice its helped me out heaps I have no
trouble getting numbers or dates anymore and its all thanks to your
E-books.

Although I would like to ask 1 thing, I was talking to my dad and
although he is happily married to my mum he still enjoys flirting
at parties, etc., with younger women just to see how they react.
Now my dad uses a very different approach so to speak. He is much
more direct and yet gets great response to it. He is never not
offered sex or some kind of other sexual favour (for want of a
better word).

His approach is he immediately introduces himself then brings up
anal sex (weird but it works) it throws the girls of completely but
then he makes [it] out as a joke and presto he has them talking
about sex within seconds of the conversation beginning.

I was wondering if this approach is worth trying or does it only
work for some people or is it just my dad? Id like to experiment
with a few other approaches other then the one I’ve been using just
to see how they go. When and where would this approach be any good?

Steve
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CARLOS XUMA’S ADVICE:

Ah, your dad is most certainly an Alpha Man who understands that he
needs to keep his own masculinity warmed up to be interesting to
your mom, and it’s likely that she understands this too and the big
reason she’s still attracted to him.

The key to what he’s doing is in his tone and method of delivery.
He is completely congruent with his attitude, and deep underneath
he knows that he’s also not really going to do anything with the
women, so he comes across as completely SAFE to the women.

So you could try his approach, but you might not have the same
success because you don’t understand WHERE that attitude comes from
that he uses to feel safe to the ladies.

This “safety” factor is a big deal when it comes to women. It’s something I’m explaining in an upcoming Advanced Coaching program, and it’s essential to understand for your ability to approach women.

You can easily think of your own approaches and experiment. What you need to do is understand that you must be completely congruent and attached to the approach you use. If you are not, you’ll give it away with your body language and tonality, and women will not respond favorably. This is something I coach men about with my REAL Game programs.

If you’d really like to learn how to approach more effectively and create your own openers for any situation, refer to my Approach Women Now program.

Every approach is worth trying once, but you won’t really make it effective until you work it in and practice it. Do what works for you and your personality. Don’t try to use other people’s material (something that a lot of guys do and then wonder why it doesn’t work), since you’ll just come across as phony.

The important thing is that you APPROACH – period.