Q & A with Carlos: You need to get out of the house dude…
QUESTION: You need to get out of the house, dude…
Well about 6 months ago something happened and I decided not to go
out with friends and just stay inside my house and train in martial
arts for 6 months straight. About 3 months into my goal I met this
girl that goes to my school and we started talking and I find out
she also takes martial arts and we started talking. She gave me the
obvious signs of interest but I didn’t move it further because
there was no point because I am staying at home and dont go out.
Her friends tell me that she was interested in me but I stopped
talking to her.
Well 6 months is almost over and I havent talked to her in a couple
of months and she still gives me signs (smiling at me during the
halls.) She probably thinks I’m scared because I didn’t ask her
out.Should I just move on after my 6 months because she will
probably think im scared or still try to get the number after 6
months is over?
Your products helped me sooo much, she probably wouldn’t even look
at me if I didnt have these techniques. From your extensive yet
easy to understand manuals, to the depth of knowledge your products
provide. You definitely have passion. During the past few months I
have purchased 2 of your products, both of which have exceeded my
expectations.
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CARLOS XUMA’S ADVICE:
Well…
Hmm…
I’m trying to find a nice way of saying this.
I think your self-imposed seclusion has a price, my friend. I
appreciate that you had a goal and wanted to accomplish it, and,
yes, it is sometimes necessary to swing the pendulum way over and
get extreme …
Sometimes.
This does seem a bit much. As a martial arts instructor, I
appreciate your dedication. However, keep in mind that true martial
arts training (if it’s to be effective in real combat) would
require you to work with a partner. And you’ll still need to be
training on an ongoing basis. (There is no substitute for
interacting with a live human being.)
But again, I salute your dedication.
The reason this girl still smiles at you is because it would be
socially awkward not to acknowledge your previous conversations or
connection.
Here are your options…
1) Tell her what you’re doing with your training, and then tell her you want to see her when your goal is complete. This is a great way of letting her know that you have your own life and path to follow. This is a turn-on to women.
2) If she isn’t responsive to you later, chalk it up as the price you pay for sequestering yourself inside. Sometimes you can’t rebound back into someone’s life. Women are expecting ACTION. In evolutionary terms, women know that the men that make decisions and take action are a better survival bet for her.
Does she want the guy that will protect her with his life, or the weepy guy who pees in his bear skin when the mammoth attacks?
Look at it this way, you’ve got nothing to lose by asking, right? You don’t have her now, and the worst case is that it will be exactly the same after.
The very least you can do is to go talk to her and see how it goes.
