Why Your Techniques Aren’t Working – Is it killing your “game”?

You need to free yourself from the shackles of technique.

Why would I say this?

I give out a shitload of techniques because they do help you out.

Training wheels, right? That’s how they’re supposed to be used, but that analogy doesn’t begin to cover it.

Techniques have a MUCH deeper impact on your game than you realize.

I’m going to tell you first about “The Gap.” I spoke about this concept at the seminar in Montreal, and I want to pass this on to you right now so that you won’t be lost down the path of “Lonely Pickup Artist.”

Techniques fulfill an important purpose that many guys don’t realize.

Techniques allow you to be another person, to leave behind the faulty belief systems, damaged self-confidence, and other limiting behaviors and step into the shoes of your alter ego. It’s a bit like putting on a super hero outfit and becoming Spider-man or Batman.

Just like Halloween, for a few hours, you can let go of all that crap in your head and just play the part.

• “Hey ladies, who lies more…”
• “That reminds me of when I was in Europe and I met this…”
• “You know, you have a really great energy about you…”
• “Have you ever heard of the Cube?”

Yadda yadda yadda.

Eventually, though, the clever dialogue runs out, doesn’t it?

It ALWAYS does. The first part of most guy’s outer game is just staying in set long enough to make it go somewhere deeper than a phone number. I see this as being the biggest developmental hurdle for most guys at my seminars.

Techniques allow you to escape yourself a little bit, but guess what?

You can never escape yourself forever. Like they say, wherever you go, there you are.

And The Gap hits you in the face when you’ve been chatting and running routines, and running kino, and eventually you feel the space between this pickup persona you’ve been crafting for yourself, and the REAL man inside you.

You see, your mind knows when you’re playing this alter ego, and when you’re true to yourself.

Even though it sounds like I’m dismissing the use of techniques, I’m not. I’m warning guys about the over-use and reliance on schtick and routines to carry their personality.

Just like drugs, it’s easy to become so over-dependent on this false persona that you wake up one day and realize you were being a one-dimensional guy.

Trust me when I say that all the (you-know-what between a woman’s legs) in the world cannot help your cataclysmic meltdown when you build a lifestyle on such a superficial and fragile belief system.

It’s like the woman who’s a 9 or a 10 waking up one way with crow’s feet in her eyes, and a saggy, aging body. Her self-confidence crashes horribly as she realizes she never had any REALIZED inner value. It was all based on the junk bonds of her appearance.

Of course, your “techniques” can be made into yourself, and they MUST if this skill of attraction is to stick. But eventually, all guys feel the need to get back to who you REALLY are. We can only be an actor for so long before it haunts you.

You know what… ?

It’s coming, guys.

There will be a day very soon when women are well versed in the lines and the standard openers, and your “game” will be over faster than the XFL.

In fact, if you haven’t been caught yet, you probably haven’t been approaching women in the real world as much as you should. (i.e., outside a loud, alcohol saturated bar environment.)

So here’s how you bridge that great divide between the “pickup artist” and the “REAL Alpha Man” inside you:

1) Stop using techniques that are working great for you.

Why would I say this?

Because it’s not the technique or the “opening line” that’s working for you.

It’s only your belief, polish, and confidence in it that makes it work.

What you need to do is substitute something of YOU that you can pull off with the same attitude and frame. When you accomplish this, you’ll really have transcended “pickup artist” and become an Alpha Man.

2) When you can open sets consistently, Start asking questions that REALLY matter to you.

Stop opening conversations with mindless fluff like “Who lies more” and others like it. Especially if you have no real concern except for the outcome of getting her started talking to you.

It’s time to put a few more plates on the barbells.

Tap into your inner beliefs and desires to come up with things that you REALLY want to know about her. Find your real curiosity for what makes her tick.

My social worker ex-girlfriend used to call this “breaking them down” and it’s a priceless method of cutting through the social B.S. and demonstrating your Independent Value.

I’ve had incredible experiences seducing a woman’s soul instead of just trying to trigger a few unstable defense mechanisms by making her feel insecure.

True confidence is when you walk up and open a group without saying a single word. Try it for yourself.

3) Start exposing your TRUE personality when you go out there.

This is what I called demonstrating vulnerability. Having the personal power to show your own emotional depth is ten times more authentic and sincere. And women KNOW it.

You’ll find yourself achieving new levels of at traction with women that will make your old makeout-in-the-bar situations sound as lame as a George Lucas love dialogue.

The one thing that vulnerability demonstrates is POWER. This is the little known factor that most guys miss because they’re locked into “insecurity armor” mode. This is where he is too busy protecting his insecurities and lack of confidence with his bravado.

(Bravado is nothing more than simulated courage.)

Get past technique so that you can create your own style of masculine identity.