Wingman
RULES:
- Wingmen always agree on strategy beforehand – avoids problems later
- Wingmen never poach (steal the other guy’s girl)
- Wingmen challenge and motivate each other
A Wingman is a guy you bring along with you on singles outings (like to bars) that helps you out with the women. Typically in these ways:
- Since women often travel in pairs or packs, your wingman helps you approach them without feeling weird about being solo. The “loner” guy standing there with a beer held close to his chest will trigger early warning defense systems in women – sometimes known as the “creep factor” – so avoid this.
- The wingman gives you social proof – or validation that you are a trustable man, not some drifter in town just to get laid. (SOCIAL PROOF is when your perceived social value is driven up by being part of a visible social network.)
- The wingman will sometimes take the least attractive gal of the pair you approach so that you can get the one you want. (Though, this is not always necessary.)
- The wingman can also be a more skilled seducer, a man from whom you can learn a great deal by flying at his side.
Keep in mind that a wingman should never be too inexperienced or he will hold you back. (Unless you are mentoring him.)
I don’t watch a lot of television, but I understand that there was a beer commercial where they have a pretty good parody of the wingman taking “one for the team” by suffering at the table with a not-so-interesting gal while his partner is out dancing with a hottie.
That’s one of the situations a wingman can be put in, but the learning and support system is unbelievable if you do it right.
Your wingman is an invaluable assistant for you (and you for him), so don’t underestimate the value of finding one that you can work with.
