Q&A With Carlos Xuma – How To Be A Bad Boy?
QUESTION FROM A READER:
Hey Carlos,
I have purchased your ‘Bad Boy formula‘ course and I’m going through it now…
Are there daily practice exercises that a person should do that will enable him to cultivate the alpha bad boy traits in his personality?
– James K.
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CARLOS ANSWERS:
Well, James, I give a lot of exercises in the lock & load formulas part of the Bad Boy Formula program.
There are over 30 of them in the program, and I’d say start there.
But there are small things you can do to cultivate that attitude that I do all the time.
Here’s one that I like to practice, because it seems easy at first. It can be challenging for some guys, yet still do-able.
When you’re out and about during the day – or whenever you find yourself around people at random – do this:
1) As you pass by a woman, attractive or not, make eye contact.
2) Keep your gaze soft. (i.e., look non-threatening)
3) Don’t smile.
4) Don’t turn your head, just keep your eyes focused on hers.
5) Keep eye contact with her until she looks away from you.
The first couple times you do this, you’ll probably look away the first time she meets your gaze. It’s a reflex reaction left over from your nice guy fears of being “caught” or that there’s something wrong with her noticing your interest.
You should make it a point to do this with women that you don’t find attractive.
“But – wait… Carlos, that makes no sense at all. Why would I want to flirt like this with a woman I’m not interested in.”
Because guys have this weird boundary they draw in their head between women they want, and women they don’t want.
They load up all these expectations and importance around the women they find attractive. It creates a ton of anxiety.
With women you’re not as interested in, it’s not a big deal. Hence, you’ll find it easier to “warm up” this way.
And think about it this way: If you can’t do this little exercise with women you AREN’T intimidated by, what’s going to happen when you see a woman that does make you a bit nervous?
Yeah. You’ll choke.
So trust your Sensei on this one…
Go out and practice some piercing eye contact. You’ll be amazed at how you feel after you get a few smiles. It’s a BIG bolt of courage when you pull it off and realize YOU are in control.
Stay Alpha…
– Carlos Xuma
