Which comes first: confidence or techniques?
There’s this ongoing debate over the use of ‘strategies’ or ‘techniques’ with women.
One corner holds that to do anything INTENTIONAL (i.e., display higher value, neg-hit, C&F, whatever) means that you’re just not doing it right. They feel you need to come from high self-esteem right off the starting blocks. To use techniques means that you’re manipulating and coming from the wrong frame or belief system.
But if the “natural” does these things (DHV, neg-hits, teasing, C&F) then it’s okay, after all, he’s just doing it … uh… naturally.
Hmm.
