Getting The Girl You Want To Ask You Out
Getting her to notice you needs a certain skill which you can learn from dating experts and self-help books.
Think of Hitch (from the movie “Hitch”), that part where he was teaching Albert (the chubby guy with “nice personality”).
In that movie, Hitch perfected a system for how to ask a girls out – and was able to pass on his system to other men who need it. It was how to make women see you as the hottest guy in the room, and how to make a woman fall for you.
How about…getting women to ask you out? You might be thinking that this seems to be an impossible feat. But, is it?
First, you have to understand that even in this day and age of female empowerment, she might NOT ask you out even if she likes you because of…
1. Tradition – society dictates that men should be the one to ask a woman out.
2. Male ego – the common belief that when a woman ask a guy out, it lowers his masculinity, which is a bad thing for a guy.
3. Desperation – men might find it as an act of desperation, which will turn men off.
These are just a few of the factors that hold her back. There are a lot of preconceived notions of what roles a man and a woman should play in dating and courtship.
So, if you REALLY like a woman, and for whatever reason that prevents you from asking her out yourself – here are some tips on what you need to do to get her to ask you out.
Get Her To Ask You Out Tip #1: Make her feel comfortable with you.
It’d take a confident woman to step up and do this without feeling comfortable with you first. Your actions will play a huge part in giving her that extra boost to take the risk and ask you out.
She won’t open herself to you right away because women are normally timid and shy. So, you’ll have to give her a bit of encouragement.
Make her feel safe and comfortable with you by allowing her to talk to you about her thoughts and feelings. Encourage her to open up and reveal things about herself.
One of the key components of connection is “shared vulnerability” – and it’s something I teach in my programs, too.
Once she feels at ease, you’ll have more chances of her opening up and asking you out.
Get Her To Ask You Out Tip #2: Subtly insinuate that you like her.
Dress to impress when you’re together, wear your best cologne, and be noticeable. And when she does notice you, let her know very subtly you’re doing all these things for her – and her alone.
The objective here is to give her subtle indications that you might like her… so she gets to wonder if you really do.
And when she starts thinking about you, then that’s the beginning of her journey towards liking you so much that she feels she has to ask you out.
Get Her To Ask You Out Tip #3: Be friends with her friends.
It’s normal for women to meet her friends just to talk about the guy she fancies. If you don’t understand this part about women, watch the “Sex & the City” tv series. You’ll learn a lot about what women talk about – though perhaps not quite as raw as what Samantha has to say.
If you hear her friends gossiping about you or teasing her that you guys would make a great couple, be bold and say “Yeah, we do! But she’s too chicken to ask me out.” Sometimes a tease like this is all it takes to push her over the edge.
Believe me, they’ll be ecstatic about it and would even push her to you. That’s probably a good sign because she’ll be thinking….
“If my friends says we’re great together, and he’s a GREAT guy. Then… he must be.” Though, you want her FEELING this and not having to rationalize the decision. She has to feel compelled to you.
Note that, if you really want to meet your objective, you have to help her out too. Don’t rely too much on her doing all the hard work for you.
You might want to step up and tap into your inner alpha male… MAN UP and be the one to make the first move of asking her out.
That way you KNOW it will happen.
Stay Alpha…
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