5 Things You Should Lie To Her About
Yes, you should practice honesty with your woman…that’s the healthy way to go.
Truth (not “truthiness”) is the most important aspect of any relationship – especially when you’re looking forward to moving forward with the girl you’ve got.
But, did you know there’s some stuff that you SHOULDN’T tell her?
The objective here is for you to stay clear of unnecessary tension and make the process of getting to know her as happy and seamless as possible.
#1 Thing you should lie to her about: Your ex was hotter/smarter/skinnier/Etc. than her
Note this carefully – no woman wants to be compared to another.
She wouldn’t want to think she’s inadequate, or a downgrade. Plus she’ll feel like you’re still hung up on your past.
This is definitely a “relationship” killer.
Don’t say stuff like “Well, my ex was really gorgeous… I’m talking MODEL gorgeous.” Or “My ex looked a bit better in that kind of dress.”
Imagine this – she compares you to her ex. Won’t that make you feel weird and insecure too? What if she said, “I think my ex was better in bed.”
Oof… punch in the nads, man.
Obviously, just don’t do it. Instead, let her know she’s the best thing that ever happened in your life.
#2 Thing you should lie to her about: Your family doesn’t like her
Understand that when your relationship goes past the first few dates, and you started inviting her to meet your family, she’ll be thinking of wedding bells – meaning, being a permanent member of your family.
Yep, that’s right. It starts that early for her.
If you’re seriously considering her to be the “ONE” to be with for the rest of your life, don’t tell her for whatever reason your family isn’t crazy about her.
That would crush her little heart.
Your next dates will be super-tense, and she’ll end up putting up barriers to defend herself. She will just end up disliking your family too…before you know it, no one wants to be together.
You might as well flush the whole relationship.
And you’ll be caught in the middle…
So, don’t tell her anything.
Your family might not like her now, but, they will come around eventually. Just give it time.
Give them time to interact more, get to know each other…and get to a point where they’ll get used to being together.
And if they give you a reason for their feelings, make sure you listen to them! Unless your family is whacked, they’ve probably spotted something you didn’t.
#3 Thing you should lie to her about: You’re attracted to her friend
Don’t be that guy who looks like a lady’s man – who flirts with any woman he comes across…
Because, if you tell her you find her friend hot – even as a joke – she won’t find it funny. She’ll be hurt and her friend will definitely see you as a creepy dude, further tarnishing your chances.
(This scenario also applies to hot sisters and relatives, too, dude!)
So, whatever you’re imagining or thinking…keep it to yourself.
Remember – be open to her about most of the aspects of your life. Just stay away from things that will make her think twice about you.
There really is no one in the world you can tell EVERYTHING to. Not even your therapist, really. Get used to it.
When it comes to dating, you’re still in the process of considering if she’s a fit. And nothing will trash the relationship quicker than you revealing things that will destroy her preconceived notion that you’re THE man she’s been waiting for all her life.
So, just be selective with what you say. Do more, say less is the best path for you.
Stay Alpha,
– Carlos Xuma
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