How to Attract & Connect With Women – Without Turning Into A Total Wussy Nice Guy – Part 1

I’m going to warn you up-front: This article may sting a bit. Especially if you’re one of those guys that thinks you’ve been unfairly “ripped off” in the world because other guys are dating (and banging) the women you should be with.

There’s an awful lot of frustrated complaining from men about women not appreciating a “nice guy,” and these men believe it’s because women don’t appreciate a “good” man.

NEWS FLASH: Women aren’t repelled from you because of your “good” and desirable qualities. There’s a HUGE gap between “nice” and “good.”

There are a lot of guys out there with an “entitlement” issue surrounding women. They think that if they just have certain qualities, that means that women should feel attracted to them naturally. A lot of guys believe that they deserve to get the woman of their dreams by simply being nice to women.

Uh… nope! It doesn’t work that way. And it never has, to be perfectly honest.

If “Nice” is all you’ve got, you can expect to be alone for a very long time.

Now, I’ll give you a few minutes to get over this shocking plot twist, and then we can get started with advice that will help you, instead of coddling you and steering you down a path of continued loneliness and despair.

Ready?

Okay, let’s start with the basics:

The Laws Of Attraction – #1) Attraction is NOT logical

Women will never feel attracted to you just because you feel like you’re a great catch. The nastiest, meanest, ugliest guys out there genuinely think they’re a catch, too. Every guy out there thinks he’s an awesome guy.

You have to realize that attraction is created when a woman is exposed to your “he’s a great guy” qualities – but passively. Not forced on her. The same way a jet can be the most aerodynamic shape imaginable and yet still not get off the ground. What the jet – and you – needs is a turbo-thrust of energy to get you airborne.

That turbo boost is what I call “ALPHA ATTRACTION.” It’s a blast of energy that’s created when you meet a woman, and it has nothing to do with your “niceness.”

I’ll explain more about this “Alpha Attraction” in a bit.

This brings us to…

The Laws Of Attraction – #2) Attraction is NOT a choice

This one is a double-edged sword. On one hand, you don’t get to choose the women that you fall in love with. That just seems to happen without any decisions from us. It’s a powerless feeling, sometimes…

But, on the other hand, when you understand and accept this fact, you can turn it around and make it work for you. Especially if you understand how to trigger attraction in a woman. Once you’ve done this the right way, and you use the right strategies, you can relax – knowing that she won’t have any choice but to want you – and only you.

The Laws Of Attraction – #3) Attraction is a game of status

Women are attracted to status – in many different forms. That’s one of the keys to unlocking her legs, and getting her to practically beg to be your girlfriend.

Status can sometimes be as simple as being rich, but that’s where most guys make their big mistake. They think that she’s attracted to the money, instead of understanding that money is only a symbol.

And most guys also make the mistake of thinking that money is the only status indicator a woman is looking for. It’s not. There are many ways of demonstrating status. For example, having a strong network of connections, or having some unique expertise.

Ultimately, the trick is to give her the feeling of status she desires. That’s the ultimate technique that so many guys ignore or overlook. A woman’s emotional experience of sharing your status is what she wants, which is why she’s attracted to your status.

Now if you’re going to draw her in, attract her sexually, you also need to be aware of two things that work against you:

1) Hot Women Have CHOICES.

This is one that even the “pickup artists” seem to forget quite a bit. It’s the reason that “negs” – or insulting a woman slightly to prove his own indifference – rarely works like they think it should. Contrary to popular belief, there isn’t a long line of women just waiting to be abused into loving you.

Hot women know that no matter what they think of a guy, there’s another man waiting for her just around the corner. Hot women live in a world of majestic abundance. She knows she only has to raise her pretty little paw at some New Guy, and he’s scampering over, ready to attend to her. She has no shortage of guys waiting to give her the attention she thrives on.

Which is why it is so critical that you know how to spark real attraction with a woman, and not fall victim to the lazy and dumb “strategies” that some of the so-called gurus want you to use. When you know that she has choice and can drop you like a bad habit, you’ll have much more power over the situation.

2) Women have “wuss” detectors built in.

They know when you’re a weak guy who will let her walk all over you. The only time a woman chooses a guy like this is if she’s trying to get over a jerk, or if she’s a gold digger looking to meet her maternal needs. And in the latter situation, she figures she might as well rule the roost while achieving her goal of having the kids and family she wants in the process.

A wuss is any guy who does the following:

– Puts women up on a pedestal

– He’s needy and clingy

– He’s low-energy and boring

– He’s “too much” – goes overboard

– He’s indecisive

– He always thinks THIS girl is super-special – and “different”

– Insecure to a fault

Wusses are basically “nice guys.” Which is really a horrible term, because “nice” isn’t what he’s up to. It’s about manipulating a woman into meeting his needs through gestures that are intended to obligate her to give him what he wants, not by earning her affection, trust, and loyalty.

The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys are remarkably insecure. They’re so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than simply for the pleasure of giving. The reason we find these Nice Guys repulsive is because we instinctively sense they’re being manipulative.

You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has latched onto you out of desperation because you actually paid a little attention to him.

So if you want to counter this tendency towards “nice guy” behavior, and you want to get the women you truly deserve to have, then let’s start with…

Look for Part 2 of this tutorial coming soon..

If you want to have that sexual confidence to reignite her passion for you, check this out…

Stay Alpha,

– Carlos Xuma