How to keep your relationship out of the danger zone
If you’ve been reading and applying the advice on our site, you’ve probably found yourself a relationship.
But the journey doesn’t end there.
A relationship is never “a means to an end”, and so keeping it in good condition should be your priority.
The true mark of an Alpha Male is being able to keep that connection going long after you’ve become a couple.
If you can’t, your relationship is going to become dull, lifeless and overwhelmed with negative feelings.
So, what’s the secret to staying happy even after you’ve been together for some time? Read on:
#1: Say NO to Judgment
Sooner or later, you’re going to realize that you and your lady are different people.
I don’t just mean knowing it on an intellectual level, but actually experiencing your differences – and more importantly, argue over them.
This is a turning point in your relationship, and the best way to deal with this change is by keeping yourself in check.
When the arguments and power struggles come along, it’s easy for doubt and anxiety to creep in.
You’ll probably felt this yourself before – don’t give in to these emotions.
Even if she said or did something to get under your skin, she’s not actually out to get you.
Chances are you don’t know her that well yet, so don’t go handing out any judgments her based on what information you have.
Stay calm, keep focused and look at the issue from all angles.
Consider the possibility that you misread each other, which led to whatever you fought about. Don’t jump the gun and accuse her of trying to “get you” without taking an objective look at the situation first.
Remember when I mentioned how relationships shouldn’t be overrun by negative feelings? This is one way to prevent that from happening to you.
#2: Take Control
I don’t mean acting in a possessive way towards your woman. There’s a difference between being the dude who stays in control and being a controlling person.
Ok, let’s say you’re having a fight and she’s feeling emotionally flooded. Should you let that mess with your inner reality?
Ask yourself: Would an Alpha Male allow something like that to lose his frame?
Of course not, which is why you need to keep it together when “it” hits the fan. Don’t tell her to “calm down” because she’s obviously going to lose it if you talk down to her like that.
Instead, get a hold of your own feelings and be that masculine presence she can lean on.
Your strength of character encourages trust and respect in the long run, so remember to keep it steady even when the boat gets rocked from time to time.
#3: Be Yourself and Keep it Real
Ok, any healthy relationship is supposed to help you grow and improve as a person. But at the core of your being, you should still be that fun, interesting guy she first met.
One of the worst things you can do to your relationship is use it an excuse to slack off. Never stop cultivating those qualities you had to begin with, such as being driven, focused and generative.
If anything, she’ll like you all the more for staying Alpha – it will keep you from being a hollow, boring shell of your former self.
Don’t be a clingy guy and expect her to hang out with you all the time. She’s another person with her own stuff going on – you need to respect her space.
Ever notice how insecure guys are always trying to tell their partner what to think or do when they’re worried that she’s “not feeling it” anymore? Well, the problem with that is you can’t tell anyone how to think or act.
The antidote to needy behavior is to keep living your life as an individual on some level.
The pursuit to achieve your full potential shouldn’t falter – even after welcoming an incredible woman in your life.
And I’ve found a killer method to help you be even more Alpha than before. It’s a course called Alpha Sexual Power, and it’s going to keep her wildly attracted to you all throughout your relationship.
Stay Alpha,
– Carlos Xuma
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