Author: Carlos Xuma

Over the 10+ years I’ve been a dating coach for men, I’ve heard some really incredibly BAD advice. On the surface most of the tips you read out there SOUND good at first, but you quickly realize just how ineffective they...

You know, I get this question (or a variation) nearly every day: “I’ve seen this girl that I really like, but I always seem to screw it up when I try to talk to...

QUESTION FROM A READER My teacher said the other day that women were superior to men because back in the Caveman days the women were”‘worshiped as gods” and the men were slaves for the...

QUESTION FROM A READER: Why is it always on the guy to do all the work? Can’t women take some responsibility? – Drew G., Indianapolis ______________________ CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS: Drew, here’s the deal… I...

It’s almost New Years Eve. Imagine yourself in New York Times Square joining the thousands of people in the countdown. You see lots of different people. Lots of different women and you find most...

QUESTION FROM A READER: Your [Bad Boy Formula] is on point when it come to getting the woman, but the problem now is. I don’t love them and they are falling for me. What...

DATING ADVICE QUESTION: First just to let you know is that your tips and knowledge has made me grow into a more confident ‘Alpha’ male. I am bit of a late bloomer in the...

Question from a reader: What does it mean when a woman says she does not deserve you….? ______________________ CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS: Ah, yes… this is one of those weird little woman-speak phrases that will...

Hey Carlos, I just want to ask a quick question, is opening with the Hi word a disadvantage, just about the Issue of saying Hi as the first word I think its a bad...

Let’s say a guy named Fred is attracted to a woman named Martha. He asks her out to a movie; she accepts; they have a pretty good time. A few nights later he asks...