When to call her (after you get her number)

It’s daunting to get a girls number – the preparation, the willpower, the sheer courage it takes to get the number can make it seem like you’re competing for the Olympics.

And it sure feels like you’re a CHAMPION when you do get that number. That exhilarating feeling of excitement – “YES! I got her number!”

And you probably realized that getting a number is NOT the last leg of the race. Now you’ll have to call her, get her to see you as the HOT, COOL dude that you are.

But…when should you call her? Do you have to wait long before calling?

You don’t want to seem too eager, but at the same time you don’t want to wait too long and risk her not remember you, or meeting some other guy.

Here are some choices you might have to consider.

1. Do you call her the next day?
2. Do you call her right away?
3. Do you wait a few days before making the call?

Out of all the three option, the BEST one is choice # 3.

Yeah, yeah, I know… you might have heard that having any rules about when to call just makes you manipulative, but hear me out on this one.

First – an important RULE that you need to remember: DON’T call the next day.

This is about building her anticipation about you. An interesting fact about women is that they are ruled by their emotions. I know, not exactly a news flash there.

But when you don’t call her right away, her expectation increases.  Her emotions will cycle. She’ll feel anger, excitement and hope all at the same time.

So when you do call her, she’ll be eager to hear from you. And eager to say yes to you when you ask her out on a date…because she’ll want to see you.

Postpone calling for a day or two. Doing it the following day after getting her number will make you appear needy. And you don’t’ want that kind of impression.

You want her to see you as the guy she wants to have, not be repelled by your instant insecurity.

Just note that if you didn’t get a lot of time with her when you first met her, you should shorten it up a bit instead of taking TOO long, though. The deeper you got in on that first conversation, the longer you can wait.

Also, remember to NEVER call on a weekend, as that’ll make it seem like you have nothing else going on – meaning, you don’t have a LIFE. This is generally not a good thing.

You want to look like someone that is not that desperate to have her, or that you’re the type who’ll keep on nagging her just so you can be together. That’s just NOT attractive to women.

But on the other side of the equation, you have to drive up her desire through the constructive use of SCARCITY. A great way to do this is to use texting before you call her – especially if you think she might either lose interest or forget you.

Ultimately, she needs to be interested in you – have that curiosity about who you are, what you’re doing and how it is to hang with you.

Building her anticipation of you calling would really give you that certain OOOMPH that you need when you start a conversation with her – and your quest to win her over. Always think of this as a game of energy – and your constructive use of that curiosity and desire energy at the start is essential to success. You want that EDGE over the other guys in her life.

And it’s always better to have that extra edge than none at all.

If you’d like to know how to make her attracted to you, watch this quick training video. Go take at it HERE.

Stay Alpha…

– Carlos Xuma