The shocking truth about connecting with quality women

Hey, it’s Carlos… I’ve got a special guest article for you from my good buddy that you’ll be hearing more from.

The Shocking Truth About Connecting With Quality Women…

What you are about to read will definitely help you to recognize and appreciate the reality of what it takes to “select and connect” with the finest woman attainable.  At first you may recognize this as being intuitive, but thoroughly grasping this concept will cause you to rethink your lifestyle and hopefully motivate you to be the best you can be.

I was thumbing through a magazine while waiting in the checkout line at the supermarket when a really hot female cashier said, “Can I check you out?” Momentarily distracted and not knowing what to think, I struck a pose and said, “Sure, take your time.” (That’s a great pickup line by the way).

However, the supermarket or marketplace I’m about to discuss is not quite the same. This marketplace deals in matching buyers and sellers (men and women) according to not only what appeals to them, but also to what they can afford.  It can be found wherever men and women find each other, and we call it the interpersonal marketplace.

To shop in this marketplace, it would be very advantageous to understand how it operates if you want to up your game to attract the finest ladies. Like most marketplaces, it has economic principles and practices in operation; for instance, supply and demand, market evaluations, bargain hunting, bartering and trading etc.  If you really want to attract and be desirable to quality women, it’s not only being the best you can be but also learning how to package, market and sell yourself in this marketplace.

I don’t mean to sound unromantic about the whole concept of dating and falling in love, but for the purposes of this lesson, I feel this marketplace can best be described and understood if men and women are considered as commodities and goods or services to be sold or traded. I will be the first to admit that this notion sounds a bit simplistic, but it is a reality.

Let’s assume for a moment that women are cars. What kind do you prefer? Can you afford a new sporty, sleek, convertible Porsche that looks great with the top down that will take you for an awesome ride but cost you a lot of money to maintain? Maybe you’re a little more practical and prefer a family model like an SUV that still looks real good, is good on mileage, low maintenance, fits within your budget and helps you with your business.

What kind of car are you? – Are you one of those large beefy Hummers with chrome rims and lots of accessories? Or are you an old beat up Corvette that looked really awesome when it was new, but now needs a lot of work to restore it to its best condition?  What is YOUR Bluebook value?  I think you’re beginning to get the picture – read on.

So now you’re out car shopping.  As a seller, naturally you want to get the most you can for your car when you trade it in. While you’re strolling the car lot waiting for the person who’s going to give you your trade in value, you start checking out the other cars.

This fine looking, sexy, sleek BMW catches your eye and it costs $23,000 (a fairly hot chick).  You start to drool.  Next to it, an even nicer looking, stunning Mercedes Benz comes into focus. You hear the theme from 2000 space Odyssey start to play in your head and you start to get an erection. However, it costs $28,000 (a really hot chick with a great career) and you feel it’s probably out of your league.

You can’t help but start fantasizing how cool you’re going to look and feel driving that awesome newer Mercedes.  You can’t wait to take her for a spin – check under the hood, listen to the motor purr, retract the headlights, put the dipstick in to check the oil, feel how she handles on the curves.

If you’re into leather, it’s even got a full leather package. This one you can proudly show off to your envious friends, your family will be proud of you, she makes good money and you just know how great she’s going to make your life.

Next to it is a rather run down Camaro with a cracked windshield, fake aftermarket headlights, banged up grill and lots of mileage that is selling for $6,500.  The interior smells awful – (not so hot chick that just got out of rehab, or what Adam Sandler calls his POS Car).  You start to come back to reality and realize that this is probably all you’ll be able to afford.

The woman who evaluates the trade-ins arrives and thoroughly checks out your car.  She seems to have been born with this skill, and you’re amazed at how quickly and accurately she assesses the value of your car.  You try and sweet talk her into giving you the highest value as possible, but your selling skills are not very good, and you really don’t hit it off with her that well.  She says she’ll give you $7,500 as a trade in –  a little more than the run down Camaro you last saw.

You tell her you had your heart set on the Mercedes, but she politely and abruptly rejects your offer.  You persist, and she says, “I’ll tell you what ... If you can fix up that body of yours … you know, pound out a few of those dents, throw on a new paint job, (your physical body), get a tune up and fix some of those mechanical defects (your dating skills) and…oh yeah, that driver’s seat looks terrible … If you can recondition the car to look and drive it’s best,  You can come back and I’ll see if I can trade you for that fine Mercedes Benz you’ve got your eye on.”

In other words, to afford that Mercedes Benz or to attract the highest quality women, you’re going to have to increase your marketplace value. If you want to attract and be more desirable to quality women so they pursue you, you will not only need to increase your desirability factor by looking and being the best you can be, but also learn and put to use the proper dating skills necessary to attain the highest class of women.

You can accomplish that by first being the best you can be, but you’ll also need to learn how to market and sell yourself on the interpersonal market place – Increase your Blue Book Value then Market yourself –  or what Carlos Xuma calls becoming the Alpha Male.