Does my wife love me?

You and your wife had been married for years now. The once very much in love couple now for whatever reason has worn off.

Yes, she does the wife duties – cooks, cleans, takes care of the children… and YOU. But, you know something has changed.

It’s not that you think she’s cheating; it’s more about staying connected with her. And, now you’re asking….

Does she still love me?

The fact that you’re asking this question means there’s something wrong. Your instincts are sending a signal that you need to pay attention to. So consider these tips on how to rekindle her attraction for you.

Tip #1: Ask her

Have the courage to go and ask her…

”Honey, do you still love me?”

If she says YES, then you have nothing to worry about, unless…

You’re instinct is telling you otherwise that she isn’t telling you the truth. Or maybe, because her answer doesn’t reflect what is in her eyes.

Make sure though that you’re prepared for her answer. And that would take a lot of patience from you if you’re the type of guy who needs an answer right now.

Watch for hesitation, or something that says: “Yes, but there’s something in the way…” You have to read the small signals here to figure out if there’s something bigger going on.

Tip # 2: Bring the romance back

Think about the things you used to do…back when you were trying to win her. A woman grows distant as a defense against you pulling away and breaking her heart. So she executes a “pre-emptive strike.”

Setup a date. Give her flowers. Take her somewhere nice and romantic.

Even better is to get her away for a short time. Find a bed and breakfast in the country somewhere (it can be driving distance.) This will allow you to re-spark things in a way you just can’t do in your “home town.”

The objective here is to make her FEEL special – and remind her that after all these years, you still love her and find her attractive and desirable.

Tip # 3: Make her smile

A woman always feels attraction to a man who can make her laugh… it’s just one of those important thing that makes ANY woman’s heart melt.

So, if you’re feeling like she’s not “here” with you, pull her back to you by making her happy. Show her some FUN.

It’s not an easy task. Your huge advantage, though, is that you have years of getting to know her. You’ve got all the insider information to go straight for her triggers.

Do you remember what point during your marriage she was happiest?

Recreate those moments – or make new ones modeled on those.

Tip # 4: Seek counseling

If all things fail, seek counseling – best from a professional so the advice can be objective and straightforward. But this is a last ditch effort, because most couples counseling just doesn’t work.

Why?

Two reasons:

1) The couples waited until the love had died. Completely. At this point, you’re better off letting the marriage end and taking the hard lesson you learned.

2) Couples counseling tries to “therapy” you into feeling love, which never really works. It’s about reviving the sexual tension and energy, which is not something therapists and counselors are very good at.

The important thing to remember here is that, you’re trying to preserve your marriage before it goes down the drain.

Going to a marriage counselor can open you up to communicate your needs, desires and fears around your marriage.

Better face the difficult steps now rather than wait for the love to completely fade away.

Get on the steps to rebuilding that attraction now.

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Stay Alpha,

– Carlos Xuma