Flip Her Attraction Switches Instantly
Most pickup artists go by the “three-second rule” which states that you should immediately approach a woman to eliminate any hesitation that makes you look insecure and weak.
I can dig that; looking casual and confident are must-haves in a guy’s personality.
But that’s not enough – how do you immediately plant the notion in a girl’s head that you’re a Potential Boyfriend – and not a Platonic Friend?
There’s an art to it. On one hand, you don’t want to seem too intense or look desperate and push her away.
But you also can’t take the Nice Guy Route by putting on a “harmless friend” act since you’ll be branded as a low-value guy.
To walk this delicate line, you’ll need to send her subtle signals that will make her think “I like where this is going…”
#1: Make a Killer First Impression
First off, she doesn’t know much about you yet, which can be a good or bad thing depending on how you handle it.
It all boils down to the information she gets from you, so be on your toes. Like our friends in law enforcement like to say, “Anything you say can or will be used against you…”
Let’s say you’re going on a date and she wants to know where you’re taking her. The best way to handle this is by giving her some pre-planned choices so she feels comfortable.
The worst thing would be the beaten dinner-and-movie path which really doesn’t say anything about your creativity. Or take her somewhere really expensive which means you’re going all out; anything drastic will make her think, “What does he want from me?”
Try this: “Well, I was thinking we could grab a cup of coffee and check out an art exhibit after,” and then add, “or we can also have dinner at this cool Brazilian place that just opened up.”
Not only are you decisive, you’re also considerate!
#2: Don’t be a Cheapskate
Ok, so we just talked about not pulling out all the stops, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t pick up the check on the first date. Besides, you should have done your homework and picked out places that fit your budget, so get ready to shell out as a sign of goodwill (read: not to be confused with acting like a meal ticket).
Be casual about it and tell her, “It’s cool, I had a fun time and I was really psyched about hanging out with you.” She’ll be impressed when you make it about being grateful for her company rather than spending money on her.
She might even put up a “fight”, but just tell her she can cover the next one (the perfect excuse for another date).
#3: Don’t Brag Like a D-Bag
This is something I like to call High Value Packaging, which is basically talking about yourself in a way that makes you attractive, minus the flashy bling factor.
For instance, most guys will talk about their jobs, but the common mistake is to drop hints about how much you make. That’s missing the point.
Look at it from her point of view: she’s looking for Alpha Male traits, like leadership, keeping cool under pressure and a results-driven attitude.
Focus on these things when you describe what you do for a living – not the size of your paycheck.
Here’s another useful bit – let her know what your job allows you to do in the other areas of your life, like having time for an out-of-town trip (which implies your disposable income and adventurous side).
Or, if your job sucks, refrain from complaining (whining isn’t hot); you can still turn it around by telling her which career you’re planning to shift to. Then you can segue into a canned routine about your long-term career plans (make sure you mean it though).
As long as she knows you have ambitions, you can still light up her attraction circuitry. Let’s face it – no one likes a bum or slacker.
#4: Lay Off the Negativity
Like I said, women don’t like whiners, so even if you do talk about something potentially negative, you can still put a positive spin to it. Alpha Males aren’t flustered when “it” hits the fan, and it’s the mark of a stable partner.
If you’re on the topic of exes, resist the temptation to trash yours by calling her a “Grade-A psycho.” Women tend to inflate negative statements even if you were kidding, so it might be interpreted as a sign of low emotional intelligence.
You can talk about personal stuff as long as you wrap it up with something positive and not too much detail. In this case you can talk about a previous relationship by saying, “We just wanted different things, and in the end it worked out for her because I heard she’s going out with someone more her type.”
All of these are great ways to bring out your authentic self, but there is one other way to be at your most Alpha. And that’s keeping T-Bleed out of your life, which is a phenomenon that causes guys to lose their testosterone.
Fortunately, you don’t need to go far for help on this – get started right here.
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