Here’s a better way to figure out women

I think most guys wish they were psychic. If you could read a girl’s thoughts like a book, you’d probably save yourself a heap of trouble.

Think about how easy it would be to plan your next move if you already knew what was going on in her head. You’d know where you stood with her, and you wouldn’t risk saying or doing the wrong thing.

However, having the ability to read women doesn’t have to be a fantasy. There is, in fact, a way to decipher a girl’s words and actions without looking into a crystal ball.

To unlock the “secret code” to her mind, all you need to do is focus on a few key areas:

#1: Observe Her Behavior

One of the basic things I teach men is to shut off that inner monologue that they tend to have when they’re with a girl. Some guys are so busy thinking about the outcome of the situation that they miss out on the important details.

For example, one guy I know used to ask himself stuff like, “Will she be open to a second date?” or “I hope she doesn’t think my outfit is lame…”

I get it that guys new to dating tend to get jittery and think about these things. But when you think about it, it’s just a nervous tic that doesn’t help your inner game at all.

That’s why there’s really no point in paying attention to that noise in your head. To keep out those distracting thoughts, focus on HER instead – it’ll help you figure out her motives much easier.

For instance, consider her actions – is she consistent, or does she tend to flake out from time to time?

A lot of guys I’ve helped often complained that the girl they were dating would be sweet one minute, then cold and aloof the next. If you’ve found yourself in the same situation, you’re probably familiar with this frustrating uncertainty.

Also, ask yourself: is she going out of her way to see you or talk to you?

A client of mine was having trouble with a girl who would be available on a given week, then seemed to fall off the grid on other days. Just when he thought he was making headway, she’d had have all sorts of reasons not to see him.

Don’t waste too much of your energy trying to analyze the situation if you keep going back to square one with a certain girl. You might think that she’s complicated, but her behavior is sending a clear message.

It’s safe to say she’s not interested in anything long-term with you. But don’t take it personally – it just means you haven’t found the best match for you yet, so keep looking.

#2: Observe Her When She’s With You

Another good way to read her is to check out her body – literally.

I don’t mean ogling her, but rather listen to what her gestures and other movements are telling you. There’s a wealth of information behind what she doesn’t say out loud.

In fact, what she does with her body is the most honest form of communication. Pay attention to the following:

• She’s more likely to stick around if she’s facing your general direction (as opposed to the exit).
• Same goes for her legs and feet – think of it as her “Sexual Attraction Compass”. You’re her “True North” if she’s oriented towards you.
• Is her body language open or closed? Look at her facial expressions and limbs; they’ll be open (i.e. uncrossed and relaxed) if she feels at ease with you.
• Is she comfortable coming into your “personal bubble”? Or does she tend to keep her distance?
• Also, does she flinch when you brush against her hand, or does she not mind at all?
• More importantly, does she keep bumping against you when you’re together?

All of these signs paint a pretty good picture of her internal state. Look out for these unspoken cues to help you figure out her level of interest.

Bonus tip: when she talks to you, does she seem enthusiastic? It’s a good sign if she’s eager to pick your brain or asks you about the little details of your life.

Otherwise, she might not be that into you – especially if she tends to pull back and let you do all the work in the conversation.

#3: Get the Truth Out of Her (When the Time is Right)

Generally, I’m not a big fan of playing mind games with women.

The most I tell men to do is tease a girl with light, playful humor to get her guessing about their true intentions. But that’s the extent of it.

All that does is set the stage before taking things to the next level. But after that, you can only beat around the bush for so long.

That’s why at some point, you can take that leap of faith and be honest about how you really feel. However, you should only do this when you’ve dropped enough hints beforehand.

Otherwise, you might want to give it some time before diving in.

Having said all that, you can get the straight dope from her by being upfront. That’s not to say you should be pushy or act like jerk; you can still be honest while being tactful at the same time.

For instance, you could tell her something like this:

“Hey, I just needed to be honest with you. The thing is, I really enjoy hanging out with you, and it would be awesome if we saw each other more. I don’t want to freak you out or pressure you, but that’s just how I feel. Also, I wanted to know if you’re more or less on the same page.”

The important thing is that you’re just “putting it out there”. Once she understands that you’re cool with it either way, she’s less likely to feel overwhelmed.

All you’re doing is meeting her halfway and taking the guesswork out of the equation for her.

If she reciprocates, then you’ve just built yourself a relationship on a foundation of honesty. If she doesn’t feel the same, then she’ll still respect you for giving her the option to choose.

Being classy means you’ll always come out a winner. Why burn your bridges with someone if you don’t have to?

She could very well recommend you to a cute friend who’s a better match for you.

So, reading women isn’t all that tricky. You just have to know where to look, and in some cases, shake things up. Let the proverbial chips fall where they may!

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Stay Alpha,

– Carlos Xuma