How do guys really feel about the depiction of women?
Billboards, magazines and ads all portray an increasingly, unrealistic standards of what a “perfect” woman should be.
Men are now beginning to objectify women a certain way that alters what he perceives an ideal woman that he should be with for the rest of his life.
That adds a HUGE strain in the “connecting” process as men find themselves identifying what they see on ads with the actual woman that they see in reality.
What they don’t see on actuality becomes imperfections and that makes them stay away from what could possibly be a great chance in romance.
A recent study by University at Buffalo sociologists has found that the portrayal of women in the popular media over the last several decades has become increasingly sexualized, even “pornified”.
These findings may be cause for concern, the researchers say, because previous research has found sexualized images of women to have far-reaching negative consequences for both men and women.
Have you ever noticed when you’re in a room full of women… you scan the room, and what’s beautiful in your eyes OR what’s sexually attractive to you are more or less similar to a woman you see in media?
A new study conducted by Researchers at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln also confirmed what women have always said:
People do look at their bodies more than their faces.
Eye-tracking technology was used to see where the gazes of males and females stayed when they were shown pictures of women with different body types.
With all these research studies, it only proves that men:
1. Would look at a women’s physicality first.
2. Would go after a woman who sexually attracts them.
Therefore, it can be concluded that the decision of men to go after a woman is mostly based on the physical aspect…
After all, men have a different biological imperative, and this is often vilified in the media. Men are often shamed for their natural sexual drives. We’re made to appear “bad” or “sinful” for our desires, simply because a man places a more immediate importance on physical features.
This is simply because a man can determine a lot about a woman’s suitability for mating based on body qualities. It doesn’t mean we’re just looking for skinny model features! We’re merely making an assessment based on what we can see.
The same way women do with a man’s facial features – which is not something that is commonly known or discussed.
If you want a higher success rate in having a positive experience with a woman, the decision should transcend beyond the norm.
What to do?
The suggestion is NOT to stop from reading magazines or surfing the net…that is next to IMPOSSIBLE at this day and age.
What should be done is to do your best to go beyond what you see…
Factor in the following when scanning the room for a potential partner:
1. Is she confident? – take it from me, nothing is sexier than a woman who’s comfortable in her own skin.
2. Is she smart? – as they say, the body may change over time, but the mind won’t.
3. Is she materialistic? – yes, we are all expected to treat women like a princess, and at times they deserve to be treated as such. But, wouldn’t it be great if she understands practicality enough that you don’t have to go broke just to be with her?
4. Is she honest? – You should feel you can trust her rather than feel the need to check on her all the time. This is a critical part of the decision process that most men overlook. And as a result, they pay dearly.
5. Is she supportive? – nothing beats a woman that’s “got your back”. You need to have a woman that is looking out for your best interests as well. Not just trying to steer all your time and attention back to herself.
Stay Alpha…
– Carlos Xuma
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