How to show her you’re a “Romantic” guy
If there’s something you need to realize about women is that they CRAVE romance. They always long for that euphoric feeling – and would want to experience it over and over again. (truth is, so do guys…)
It doesn’t matter how old she is, or what her status in life is… She wants to be courted, wooed and pursued. It’s part of her instinctual programming.
And if the woman in your life right now is special to you, if you want to make her happy and keep her…you’d want to be the guy that gives that feeling to her.
In the movie 50 First Dates, Lucy played by Drew Barrymore has a short-term memory loss. Henry (Adam Sandler) has to concoct new and clever ways to meet her everyday to get her to fall in love with him.
Henry might not have that six pack abs or an alpha male persona that women would be drawn to. But, he makes up for it by putting Lucy’s needs first. It’s slightly narcissistic, but it’s something women need to experience from time to time.
Men in real life find it challenging to be romantic. But, if you want your lady to feel you appreciate her, you’ll have to use a few romantic gestures.
Here are 5 that can get you started:
Romantic Gesture #1: Hold her hand while walking with her.
Go to a park, the beach or maybe a few blocks from her house and just walk. Hold her hand while doing so…
Holding hands is a sensation that women find very reassuring. It tells them you’re connected, and it eases her insecurities a bit as well.
Romantic Gesture #2: Candlelit dinner
It really seems like a cliche, but if you’ve been dating her for any period of time, this gesture never gets old. Take her someplace quiet or reserve a spot in a restaurant with a nice view.
Light some candles and go dark. There is always something about the darkness and lighted candles that exudes warmth and romantic feeling.
Romantic Gesture #3: Breakfast in bed.
Nothing says “I can take care of you” better than breakfast in bed. It doesn’t have to be fine dining – simple eggs, bread, and coffee will do the trick.
Surprise her!
Remember, it’s the “unasked for” nature of these gestures that really trigger “romance” in her mind. Not extravagant planning.
Romantic Gesture #4: Tell her she’s beautiful
Women LOVE to be told they’re beautiful, and your lady will appreciate that you appreciate her.
Just say “You look beautiful tonight”, “or when you’re about to sleep, look at her and say something like “You just look so amazing”
Women are immensely insecure about their appearance, and a great deal of “romance” to them is simply keeping her from falling into negative spirals in her own thinking.
Romantic Gesture #5: Send her some flowers
Surprise her by sending flowers for her at work, or give them to her when you come home. Nothing huge, just enough to make a gesture.
You don’t have to wait for a special occasion to do this. What makes this gesture super romantic is the fact that you thought of it out-of-the-blue. Again, it’s the fact that it was initiated by you, which is proof in a woman’s mind that you are connected to her.
And that she has romantic influence over you!
The trick here is to make her feel special and show her how she affects you. And the KEY is spontaneity.
If she knows what you’re up to, then the element of surprise will lose its effect. What you’d want is to be able to BLOW her away.
And all that takes is to initiate the effort yourself, since that is the “proof” women are always looking for that your feelings are real.
Stay Alpha,
– Carlos Xuma
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