How To Tell If She Likes You (And What To Do About It)
It can be quite the enigma to figure out what’s going on inside a girl’s head – or so it seems. Knowing if a girl is attracted to you is a just matter of reading the signs.
They’re there, so it’s all about having a greater awareness of whether or not that girl you’re talking to is interested enough to exchange Twitter handles or add you up on Facebook.
The Basics
Ok, the first thing you need to understand is that everyone sends signals – both verbal and non-verbal – to indicate their state of mind.
The problem with approaching attractive women is that a guy can give off too much interest and give away the game too early. Maybe that cute brunette you’re chatting up is making you speak too quickly or fill the conversation with too many “um”-s.
This is why you need to get used to striking conversations with strangers so that you don’t choke when it’s time to step up to the plate.
Once you’ve sorted that out, the next step is learning her attraction signals. Take note these don’t happen in a specific order – nevertheless, it’s important to know what to look for:
- She laughs at your jokes.
- Her body is facing your general direction.
- She’s drawing attention to her hair or décolletage (which is basically the neckline area) by lightly touching her fingertips across those parts.
- Speaking of her hair, if she’s always fixing it, it means she wants to look good for you.
- If she looks at you right after she talks or does anything, it means she’s gauging your response.
- She doesn’t mind standing close to you. If she bumps you (or vice-versa) and doesn’t recoil, that’s even better.
- If she says she’ll be right back (e.g. go to her friends, get a drink, go to the restroom, etc.) and returns. Bonus points if her group leaves but she doesn’t go with them to hang out with you.
- She looks for an excuse to keep the conversation going after you’re done speaking – or initiate it in the first place.
- She’s extra chatty to get you to notice her as you’re talking to her friends.
- She wants to know your name or how old you are.
- She’ll make a flattering or positive comment about you (“That’s a cool shirt, where’d you get it?”)
- She’ll fish for information about your relationship status (“Your girlfriend must think you’re the funniest guy”, “Are you seeing anyone?”)
- Even if she doesn’t agree with something you said, she’s still chatty and cheerful.
- She’ll accidentally brush her arm against you or even briefly touch your had while she’s talking to you.
What To Do Next
So, if she’s giving off any of these attraction signals, the one thing you should do is play it cool. I know how awesome it is when you’ve got a good feeling she likes you, but this is a crucial part of the game – don’t blow it by responding too eagerly.
Not to discourage you, but for all you know, she’s just testing the waters as much as you are, seeing if you’ll take the bait.
To be on the safe side, treat the interaction as a “slow burn”. Let the tension build and gradually warm up to her instead of pouncing on the first sign of attraction.
So, your next step should be to stay calm and make her work for your attention. A big part of that means not being intimidated by her beauty.
Remember: it seems more natural to women when you go from cool and casual to warm and friendly. To do that, you need to set up the game in a way that she needs to earn the privilege to see your softer side.
A lot of attractive women draw their leverage from their looks, so not acknowledging it (e.g. “You’re so hot, can I buy you a drink?”) gives you the upper hand.
Don’t be like the other guys who bore her with an endless stream of mundane questions and seem desperate for approval. Instead, throw a curveball and joke around with her.
Use humor to your advantage – make a funny comment about the stuff happening around you (like an obnoxious person at a party), or ask her what’s up with that freaky looking necklace she’s wearing (warning: no comments about her physical appearance).
Your easygoing attitude should make her think, “Why hasn’t he told me how beautiful I am? Other guys have. I’ll show him – he’ll be groveling just like the rest.”
And it’s this very thought that triggers the reaction needed for sexual chemistry. In short, attracting women is about reading her signals and responding appropriately by being a challenge to her.
But there’s more to making women like you than that. The other part of the equation has been vastly overlooked – until now.
Men are at risk of losing their testosterone, and this problem is called T-Bleed. This is why some men can’t attract women no matter what they do.
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