Confidence: Part 6 – Sexy Time

So where to start…

You can scour bookstore shelves for all the latest in self-help, relationship, and sex advice. But maybe you still feel a little self-conscious about being seen doing some good old fashioned book learnin’ with naked pictures of people doing naughty things. Especially if it is a pop-up book. Well thank God Al Gore invented the Internet! Okay, no, he didn’t, but now we can search for just about anything we want and need to learn, from the comfort of our own homes. So you now have no excuse!

You can find so much great information online it’s ridiculously awesome. And, no, I do not mean Porn sites. That is false information. Fun to watch maybe, but not real and not good for what you need to learn.

You need real, solid technique. A great place to start is right here with Carlos Xuma. He has done some great work on technique and I know he can help you. So look through his catalog of teachings and you will learn a lot. Then fan out from there. Search for other information, and definitely seek out some women teachers. Go to the source.

Another great way to learn is to simply listen to your women. Talk to them. Ask them what they like in the bedroom (not while you are in the middle of it, because that makes you look clueless). Sit down with a nice glass of wine and talk about sex! Women will open up to you and talk about what they like. They want to.

They want you to make them feel incredible. The fact that you are taking the time to find out what turns them on, turns them on! Remember, the sexiest organ of all is her mind. So start chatting them up, you won’t be sorry.

Once you start learning all about how to make her feel great using all your tools – penis, fingers, tongue, etc., don’t forget about yourself. You need to be aware of what your body can do and keep it tuned up. We have all had those “less than rigid” man moments.

If you haven’t, you will, and it’s almost always mental. Do not stress! If it’s physical, there’s always Viagra, but there are techniques to make you bigger, harder, and give you more stamina out there.

Read up on some Tantric techniques. Get on that Internet thing again and search!  Few things are more sexually empowering than a rock hard boomstick and the knowledge to use it. So get healthy, stay heathy, and keep your women happy.

And finally, it goes without saying, but play it safe out there. Wear a condom! And ALWAYS remember, NO MEANS NO! Unless of course you are doing things that involve a safety word. In which case I recommend “Rosie O’Donnell”, that’ll stop any sex cold.

So get out there, learn, enjoy, and experiment. Be open, honest, and listen to what she is saying before, during, and after sex. She will constantly give you clues. And seeking those out is half the fun. Enjoy the hunt.

Go On, Be Strong

Spike Spencer, the Dating Sage
www.DontKillYourDate.com