How to Call Her

There are some basic, simple, general rules for calling a woman.

For instance, I always recommend that a guy wait at least 48 hours before he dials that number for the first time (after he gets it). In addition, there are rules to deal with situations with a woman flaking on you.

This happens a lot more than you might think> It’s all part of the dating game. But if you want to smoothly navigate the dating pool and know how to handle some of the sharks. The first step is memorizing how to react to different scenarios where she isn’t living up to your expectations.

How To Call Her Scenarios:

1: If She Flakes.

In this scenario, she calls you to cancel a date. First off, you must assume that she’s not interested in you enough. That is a cold, hard fact. If she liked you, she would have moved mountains to be there.

2. If she left a message for you cancelling:

• Call her back immediately to confront her about her flakiness. Here’s what you say: “Danielle. I didn’t think you were flaky when we met. I’m going to assume you aren’t a flake and give you another chance to get together because I think we would look really cute on a date.”

You are doing two things here, you are saying this is her last chance, and you are adding a dose of humor to show that you aren’t bent out of shape about her flaking, but that you won’t tolerate it happening again.

3. If she calls to cancel but does not apologize or suggest an alternate time to get together. In this scenario, she gets no second chances. Game over. She lost. But you still want to maintain your dignity, so here’s what you say:

* “Sorry it didn’t work out. Maybe some other time.” Then hang up. There will be no other time. Let it go.

Then hang up.

4. If she doesn’t even call to cancel and then doesn’t show up at the place when and where you are supposed to meet. If she never calls to apologize, you actually aren’t going to call her at all (a bit of a trick question). What you are going to do is take her phone number, wad it up into a little ball, and throw it in the trash bin.

That’s because her failure to call you and cancel and her not making the appointment and not even calling to explain is hugely disrespectful. I say run away. But I also realize not every guy is going to do this, so I reluctantly offer one last option:

5. How to call her when she has flaked and never calls to explain:

Call her the next day and say this:

“Danielle, I’m so sorry I didn’t make our meeting yesterday. Things just got crazy busy and I lost track of time.”

If she has answered the phone, you can wait to see how she responds. If you are leaving a message, then add: “Let’s reschedule. Call me.”

Then, once again, the ball is in her court. If she never calls, you got your answer.